By learning how to label our emotions, we can learn how to take better care of ourselves—the simple act of naming our feelings has actually been shown to help us to feel more in control of them. This can be hard, though. Sometimes emotions feel too overwhelming to handle, and when this happens, we might try coping through unhelpful and unhealthy techniques like screaming at our partner or shutting down. This can lead to us feeling even worse. To move through these difficult moments, it's helpful to try to understand what it is that we’re actually feeling.
It’s tempting to think that if we are smart enough, if we plan well, we can avoid heartbreak and sadness, anger or pain. The problem is – that’s not the way that we’re built. Emotions are our body’s way of motivating us and communicating with ourselves and others. Despite their usefulness, embracing our emotions doesn’t always seem easy. Sometimes feelings are so intense that it may seem impossible. But, by learning how to navigate through these moments, we can begin to feel more confident and in control.
In the thick of depression, anxiety, or even those everyday mood swings, the idea of self-help is almost absurd. You might feel like you’re already underwater, so how exactly are you supposed to throw yourself a life vest? The good news: we all have many of the tools that can help us to feel better. By learning which to use and how to do so, you can begin to move through tough times a little easier.
Happy Holidays to those of you who celebrate this time of year! It's been awhile since I've posted and like many of you, I've been busy trying to balance life between work, family, friends, and holiday festivities. This time of year it can be especially difficult to find time and money to devote to self-care. But, self-care is even MORE important during these stressful times to help prevent burnout. So, I thought it would be a great time to revisit some realistic and cheap ways to practice self-care.
This is the second video in the series where I'm focusing on what panic attacks are and some things you can do to help yourself get through one. If you haven't already, check out the first video here. Today, I go into detail about what grounding is and why it is a helpful skill to know if you're feeling anxious or having a panic attack.
Last month, I posted a blog about what you can do to help yourself get through a panic attack. I received a lot of interest in this topic, so I decided to start a short video series where I can go into a bit more detail.
Torie Cueto, LMFT
Torie is a licensed therapist in San Diego, California providing individual therapy for adults both in-person and online.